Paula DeWit is a PTSD survivor who finds healing through making music. She is an experienced passionate musician who loves to bring singers and players together. Through her life stories she has the desire to help others and instill hope for a fulfilling life.
Q. If you could give your past self some advice, what would you tell yourself?
The most important thing I wish I knew was to not allow shame to keep me silent! I wish I did not keep my assault a secret. I wish that I would have sought out help, justice and support immediately. I know now that if I would have spoken up my life would have been different. It took a lot of hard work to have confidence to get to the stage that I am at. I still have a long way to go but I am grateful for the gift of life.
Q. What keeps you motivated on a daily basis?
My family and my faith. I am blessed with three wonderful sons. I love them unconditionally and I value each of them dearly. I want to be the best version of myself to show them that I can overcome shame and still contribute to society. My love for my sons and my love for God are my rock.
Q. What is your number one priority when it comes to your music?
To serve others and to allow musicians to shine and express themselves by giving them opportunities. Through different collaborations I wish for beautiful music to be made and for lots of soul satisfaction to be had by all involved. There is no room for ego in music, but it is an extension of my soul. Music is the healer, the storyteller, the message of the person expressing themselves. Music connects us to each other on an empathetic level. The gift of music is for us to share.
Q. What is your favourite thing about what you do and why?
I am so grateful for my opportunities. whether it’s playing my trumpet at my Rotary Club or singing the propers for Mass or performing Bach for an intimate audience or conducting large groups of amazing musicians, I know I am fortunate and blessed. Music which is my passion, saved me. It heals. It breathes life into my veins. I need it to survive. It gives me purpose and a reason to get out of bed. I need to share my passion. It is such an honour knowing my music resonates with people. My biggest thrill is collaborating with others. Music is a healer for so many people.
Q. Do you have a mantra or phrase you live by? What is it?
“Share your story – shame cannot survive empathy.” It ties my life together. My story is about not letting shame take your life from you. By telling your story and by not staying silent we can give hope to those who need it. We are not alone, we are in this together. As they say, people who need people are the luckiest people in the world. We need each other. Let’s build each other up.
